Displaying your emotions

Sugarcoating. I’m guilty of it, and I need to get out of the habit of it. Holding in emotions is probably the one thing that can mess up your body physically, mentally and emotionally. Pretending that everything’s okay in life is not only a lie, it’s a habit that a lot of us follow. This is one of the reasons I choose not to be an optimist. Although I may not look at everything positively, I can prepare myself a little better (just a little). 

Try not to hold in your emotions, it can be painful and it’s alright to feel negative at times. Holy hell, I was so pissed today and to a certain extent I still am, but if I were to have held in those emotions, my body would go haywire along with my mind. It’s always good to talk things out too, but the one thing that people DON’T do when they talk things out is they don’t actually do something with the advice. Everyone’s guilty of it and it’s not a bad thing, but your problems will move a lot quicker if you listen to someone with more experience. That person for me, is probably my older sister and my really close friends. For you, it could be a parent, a friend, anybody. It doesn’t matter who it is. As long as you know that they’ve experienced what you have and got through it, then it should be find to talk to them.

Try not to take advice from people who probably don’t know anything about your situation. Would you ask your mechanic for medical advice? If you would, then have fun rubbing iodine on a broken bone (HAHA it’s supposed to be a joke, comedy!!). 

Being emotional isn’t the problem, controlling your emotions is.

Logic + Love = Success

This is just a quick thought, as I’ve already said my piece today. Love is a wonderful feeling. But the reality is that love itself does not mean you’ll live happily, especially if you don’t use your mind correctly. A realization that I came up with is that if I’m going to be with a girl, there have to be some logical decisions being made. Constantly shopping and spending money may seem harmless at first but this could easily be the reason for an argument between a ‘loving’ couple, and could lead to a break-up. Money management skills must be there. I’m not going to shroud you with bullshit though, as I myself have been known to have troubles with money management. I’m proud to say though that I’ve improved in this and have gotten stronger in my money management. 

The reason I’m saying this is because a lot of divorces these days are caused because of poor money managing skills and debt. Money management should be #1 on our to-do list of life, because no matter how you look at it, money is VERY important. 

Love can’t be the only thing pushing a relationship. Love and logic placed together are a sure winner.

Ego

These days, the term ‘cheating’ seems to be used less and less often. In fact, it’s not even used anymore. People seem to have forgotten the meaning of cheating. Relationships are being taken way too softly now. Boyfriends are cheating on their girlfriends and vice versa and it’s not like they’re keeping it to themselves either. They flaunt to their friends about how they got together with this really good looking guy/girl, or they chopped them, or some shit like that. For one, ‘chopping’ pisses me off. Guys and girls alike think that whoever they’re ‘chopping’ is only good for sex and good looks. It’s just another ego-boosting ‘technique’ that people seem to think makes them any more important than other people. If you like someone, you like them. If you like them for their looks, so be it, but if you plan on getting together with someone solely for their looks, then you’re fucking shallow. 

Whenever I was listening in on conversations people have, it seems that everyone’s ego is overshadowing their intelligence. Clothes, music, friends, it seems that all of this plays into people’s egos. People start to forget about other people and are so sucked into their own egotistical world that they forget about the happiness. People will sink down to the lowest level because someone else insulted them. This is what happens when 2 egos collide. They argue and argue, and fight, and hate, simply because they are insecure about themselves. 

What people don’t seem to get, is that there is a difference between ego and self-respect. Big egos make you look like an ignorant asshole. Self-respect means that no matter what happens, no matter who says what about you, that you can recover and come out stronger than before, because you love yourself enough. I’m not perfect. Of course people’s words have hurt me, and guess what? They still do. It’s all a part of being human. I’m just asking people to stop being so self-absorbed and to start reaching out to others. When you get too self-absorbed, you’re going to realize that there is no one else around you that cares about you. 

You never know what you have until you’ve lost it

Don’t fuck around with people’s emotions. Don’t play people for fools and don’t be so negative towards other people. You never know who could have been your friend, who you could have fell in love with and who you could’ve been there to help. Don’t take people for granted, because no matter who it is, even being with someone you hate is better than being alone. 

So why do people reject friendship? Is it because of their view of what ‘annoying’ is or what ‘mean’ is or what ‘bitchy’ or anything else is? Everyone has their own personalities, and that’s something you have to deal with. You should embrace everybody and everything around you, because you never know when you’re going to lose something close to you. It’s the hardest thing to lose someone you love but at least you know that you’ve worked to create that relationship, whether it be friendship, dating or marriage. It’s hard to lose someone but at least you have memories of when you were with them. It’s hard to lose somebody but it would’ve been even worse if you had never met them in the first place.

It’s also impossible to be friends with everyone, but don’t be so picky. You never know when you’ll find the most amazing person, even if their first impressions aren’t so great. People are a lot deeper than you think. They may have more in common with you than you think. 

You know what I find interesting? I find it interesting that (and yes, I stole this from Denis) people will date someone after only a couple of days of knowing them, while the people that truly care for them, that have been waiting for that one day where they would be accepted by them, are never accepted. I find it funny that people will simply go with another person because they ‘feel them’ or because of how they dress or some dumb shit like that. I find it funny that people will be with someone because they’re the same race as them. And I find ithilarious that people will actually BLAME a whole gender for one breakup. I’ve seen it before. I’ve seen messages like “all women are bitches” or “all men are dogs” and it’s just so ignorant. YOUR relationship is an isolated situation and it has nothing to do with men or women in general. 

Something else that irritates the hell out of me is how people take other people for granted. These are your FRIENDS, your LOVERS, the people that you’ve lived with for so long. How can you take them for granted, how can you take advantage of them? Is it because of something that happened in your past? GET OVER IT. Or maybe you just enjoy doing that type of thing to other people. I’m not one to make assumptions though, maybe you regret it and you’re too scared to do anything else. Maybe it’s a defensive barrier, a mask that covers your true emotions. Maybe you’re incapable of giving a damn about another person because you’re afraid of losing them. If you’re in that situation, I can’t say I can relate, but it’s a situation that people come by very often. I think this mask that we wear all the time may be the cause of a lot of negativity around us. We’re afraid of showing our true selves, so we mask ourselves to make sure other people don’t think weirdly of you, or don’t think of you as a bad person. I think every once in a while though, that we need to take off our mask and just let out our true emotions. 

Why am I writing such a long note? A lot of stuff happened, and I’d prefer not to make it public. I just want to let everyone know that if you love someone, not to take them for granted. You never know when you can lose them. When I say lose them, I mean that they can die any day. When I say lose them, I mean that because of the way you treated them, they could be gone from your sight within moments. Don’t take people for granted, they have a lot more control over your emotions than you think.

Insignificant Problems

When you think about it, most of the complaints that we have and most of the things that we deal with are so insignificant to the bigger picture of life. I say this because there are so many other things going on in other people’s lives that would just hurt to hear about and most of us complain about getting the wrong order of fries, or not getting the newspaper in the morning.